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CRYING AS A FORM OF RELEASE.

INTRODUCTION. 

The Silent Strength of Tears

In a world that praises composure, crying often gets misjudged. We're told to "be strong," "keep it together," or worse  "stop being dramatic." As if shedding tears is a failure. As if releasing emotion means losing control.
But what if we’ve misunderstood crying altogether?  
What if tears aren’t a symbol of weakness, but a sign of release, healing, and emotional truth?
Many people, especially men and strong-willed women, suppress tears for fear of being seen as fragile. But tears have a purpose. They're not just emotional responses  they are the body’s way of letting go of what the soul can no longer carry.

The Truth Behind Tears.


Crying isn’t always about sadness.  

Sometimes it’s frustration,relief, gratitude, overwhelm and even peace.
Tears show up when words fail  when the pain (or beauty) is too big for language. They speak when we can’t.
People who cry aren’t weak. They’re brave enough to feel. Brave enough to allow themselves to be human in a world that tells us to be robotic.

Why So Many Avoid Crying.

Many people grow up hearing:

- “Crying won’t change anything.”  

- “Big girls/boys don’t cry.”

 “You’re too emotional.”

So they learn to harden.  

To hold everything in.  

To laugh instead of cry. To smile instead of break.

But what really happens?  

That pain doesn’t disappear. It builds. It buries itself deep in the body. And eventually, it shows up as:

- Anxiety  

- Anger outbursts  

- Burnout  

- Emotional numbness  

- Depression

By avoiding tears, we only delay healing.

Crying Is Your Body Letting Go

When you cry, your nervous system releases stress.  
Tears carry stress hormones, and after crying, your heart rate slows. Your breathing deepens. That lump in your throat disappears.
It’s not in your head  it’s science. 
Your body knows how to heal. Tears are one of its tools.
Just like sweating when you’re hot or shivering when you’re cold crying is your body’s way of adjusting emotionally.

The Pressure to Always Be “Strong”*

This hurts.”

- “I need a moment.”

- “I’m overwhelmed, and I’m allowed to feel that.”

A quiet room, your car, the shower  anywhere you can be alone with your feelings.

Play music that unlocks emotion.  

Sometimes a song speaks for what we can’t say.

Breathe deeply through it. 

 Let it come. Let it pass. It won’t last forever.

 Journal after.

- Write what came up. Often, tears reveal truths we hadn’t fully faced.

For Those Who “Can’t Cry” Anymore,,

If you feel like you’ve numbed out and can’t cry that’s valid too.  
Sometimes people shut off tears because they’ve cried too much before and didn’t feel heard. Or because they were punished for expressing themselves.
That numbness is also a wound.  
And with time, safety, and self-compassion  it can soften.
Don’t force tears. Just allow space for them when they come.

Crying Isn’t for the Weak  It’s for the Healing.

We cry when we lose, 

We cry when we love,

We cry when we miss someone,  

We cry when we finally feel safe enough to fall apart,

That’s not weakness.  

That’s the most human thing there is,

Tears mean something inside of you matters. That your heart is still alive. That despite everything you’re still here, still feeling, still real.

Final Thoughts: 

Let It Flow
You don’t have to apologize for crying.  
You don’t have to hide it.
Letting yourself cry is not falling apart  it’s allowing yourself to process, reset, and come back clearer.

Why We Cry in Secret.

Many people cry alone  in their rooms, showers, cars because they’re afraid of judgment.  
They worry people will see them differently. They think it makes them a burden.
But imagine a world where we could cry in front of each other.  
Where pain wasn’t hidden, and healing wasn’t shamed.  
Where you could say, “I’m not okay,” and someone would simply sit with you, without trying to fix it.
Tears don’t always ask for solutions. Sometimes they just want to be seen.

When Crying Feels “Too Much”

Some people feel guilty for crying often.  

They say things like:

- “I cry over everything.”  

- “I wish I wasn’t so sensitive.”  

- “I hate feeling this way.”

But being sensitive isn’t a flaw.  

It means you feel deeply.  

And while that can be heavy, it also means your heart is still open. You haven’t hardened.

Crying doesn’t make you emotional  it makes you in tune.And people like that are needed in a world that’s becoming too cold.

Ways to Let Yourself Cry Without Shame

1. Give yourself permission.

Say it out loud if you need to: *“I am safe to feel this.”

2. Find a safe space.

 You don’t have to “be strong” all the time.Sometimes the strongest thing you can do is simply feel.

Let yourself sob.  

Let your body shake.  

Let it all out.

And when the tears stop, sit with the silence.  That’s where healing begins.

So no crying isn’t weakness.  

It’s courage.  

It’s honesty.  

It’s release.

And you, dear reader, you're allowed to feel the pain.Take time to feel don't make a step without feeling the pain and healing,no judgement just love.😊😊

By yvonne.

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